i did not realize how many things happened in such a short amount of time! continuing on...
after we finished our own black friday shopping we headed back to the hotel to see what the rest of the family was up to. the original plan was to hang out near the beach friday and then saturday wake up and head to pasadena to revisit memory lane and stats. when we got back to the hotel we realized that things were quickly changing, as they often do in my family. there were so many things we wanted to do and just not enough time. we went to lunch with my aunt and uncle, while deciding to forgo the original plan and go to pasadena/stats that day and go to the swap meet on saturday instead. i wasnt sure how ready richard was for this adventure, but he was all in, especially with the hour nap we took on the way up while mom drove!
once passing the panda we got lost driving around downtown pasadena trying to remember which street stats was on. upon finding and fighting with my sometimes lame brother we were ready to enter. now by this time stats had been built up so much for richard. we used to go all the time growing up, it was my favorite christmas store on the planet. it has everything you could ever want in a christmas store. it was to the point though that i was afraid he was going to be disappointed when we took him in there. we kept telling him how fantastic and amazing it was, what if he thought it was the lamest place on the planet? i was so excited to share that and the whole pasadena experience with him, but wasnt sure he was excited at all. living in las vegas as long as we both have you cant really take a person home and show off your whole life. this was going to be my chance, the same chance he had when we went to florida over the summer. it really was the whole weekend, my chance to show off my family and previous life.
once we got into stats he was totally engulfed. everywhere you looked was amazing displays and more christmas decorations than any place i had ever seen. he loved it, thank goodness. we only bought a few decorations, the cash register can total up quite quickly there, but they were going to be great in our apartment. we later ate at a fantastic italian restaurant with my family, nice to get away from the big huge family.
saturday morning we got up bright and early to go the orange county swap meet. mom and kyle had decided we should all go together. i walked across the street from our hotel for coffee and a few breakfast goodies, while richard moved his car into the ralphs parking lot. there was only 1 vehicle allowed in the hotel parking lot and he didnt want to pay the meter all day to keep it on the street. so off to the orange county fairgrounds we went. now this is not your ordinary etchy sketchy swap meet. this is a magical land with real furniture, serious name brand perfume, sunglasses shops at every other booth, cars, backyard landscapes, socks, california t-shirts, and kitchenware. i love wandering around this place and if you get there before 8am its free. this was another place i was afraid richard would not like. he would get bored or not find anything or think it was all to expensive for a traditional swap meet (which this one in its location is anything but). but he loved it!
afterwards we decided that we needed to hit rogers garden, another one of my favorite places, but we were hungry. we needed to hit chick-fil-a at some point that day, because they were closed on sunday, and richard had to have it when were down there. so we convinced my mom and brother to go while my dad drove up to where we were to go to rogers garden. he even got a souvenir shot.
we left pretty early heading back to laguna and decided we all wanted to go out for a drink. richard and i stopped at ralphs across the street to move his car in front of the hotel because you did not have to pay for parking after 7pm, and we figured it couldnt be good to leave it over night. i dropped him off and went to park moms car. he met me back in the parking lot pissed as all get out because his car had been towed! he instantly started yelling and throwing things on the floor, and blaming me that i had told him to park in there. now yes, i will take some responsibility that i did say to park there, or we could go and try to find a place in the neighborhoods above our hotel. my parents were walking back from parking my dads car and saw what was happening, my dad turned into an instant im right dad mode with, well shouldnt have parked there. while they were no help i walked away trying to find richard, who was still pissed as all get out at me and the whole situation. i convinced him to go into ralphs and ask if they know the towing company phone number so we can try and track down his car before we need to leave the next day. meanwhile my parents came over offering to help and what did we need. we needed to borrow moms car if we could track down his mostly, and mom offered to take me home the next day if richard wanted to leave that night, which i was praying he wouldnt leave without me. he called the number they gave him and someone actually answered. we were able to go that night, which was a miracle they were open 24 hours. he clearly needed space, still throwing things and really upset, so i went across the street to the hotel parking lot and told him to let me know when he was ready.
no car ride had ever been so silent as it was on the way to the towing place. after getting lost and finally finding it we had to call someone to let us in. as if the ordeal wasnt sucky enough, the car is in his dads name and the new registration had not arrived at the apartment by the time we left for the weekend, so we werent even sure they were going to let us have the car. luckily the guy did not ask for any kind of car info, just ricahrds id and cash. we got into our respective cars and drove back to the hotel with tears in my eyes the whole time, sure he was going to blame me forever. i had asked my family if they could give us the room for a little bit so we could talk and they could leave us alone. they decided they were going to go to wahoos fish tacos and then we could meet up with them to go to the bar. once we got back he had decided he was going home that night, he needed to work the next day, and honestly i think he was still really mad at me. i couldnt imagine him driving home like this and without me. i finally convinced him to sit down with me on the bed and just think for a minute. well thinking turned into a little bit of talking, which turned into more talking, and crying-on my part. i had been determined to leave with him, whenever he was leaving. i felt if he left without me, we would be in serious trouble. after the talking and the reassuring of both of us and our relationship, thankfully, he decided to stay. he also dropped being so mad at me, and i finally caught on that it was a lot more at the situation rather than just me (its the natural girly thing to do). he realized that you can make a mistake and i wasnt going to leave, it was going to make us stronger. and i realized how much i truly love him and that he was really opening up to me. this was a big step for us, able to turn something that was potentially really sucky to something that didnt need blame on either person. besides, we could always blame ralphs and the towing company instead.
my parents came back to pick us up and tried their best to make light of it all. richard realized they were just trying to make him feel better, and laughed a little, i think he thought they were going to make the situation a blame on him. he was going to come out, have a drink, or 7 with us and we would go home together rather early in the morning. while out with my parents, brother, and aunt and uncle, we both let it go. he turned to me at one point and thanked me for being me and caring and believing as much as i did. i looked at him in that moment and knew that we were going to be ok, we were going to get through this.
we drove home the next day with an uneventful trip. we also realized this was the first trip we were taking together and would be able to go home together. no dropping each other off at our own houses, we could go home together. and that night we would be able to sleep in the same bed, we couldnt in the hotel, we arent married yet, you know. now it was time for our next adventure, decorating the apartment for christmas, the first one in our place together.
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